I would say: Sometimes make barriers(temporary boundaries) in friendship for the heart to synchronize.
Saturday, June 15, 2013
Friday, June 7, 2013
Friends. It’s never about complimenting each other, purported something nice and comforts them to make their heart at ease. Conveying what they did wrong and how to come for a resolution per se is a true friendship. As narrated by Bukhari and Muslim:
The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said : Help your brother whether he is a wrong-doer or is wronged. A man enquired: 'O Messenger of Allah (pbuh) , I may help him when he is wronged, but how can I help him when he is a wrong-doer? '
The Prophet (pbuh) said : ' You can prevent him from wrong-doing. That will be your help to him' .
Also as stated by Ibn Hazm : “Anyone who cares about your friendship is willing to criticize you, while those who make light of your faults show they do not care.”
Regardless, sometimes the one who love to be in circumstances of lovey-dovey is an orchestrating scheme generated for the necessity of their self-interest. Not to mention that a lovey-dovey theme is an odd thing in friendship, however in relating Ibn Hazm statement with my random analysis; friendship that indicated less subject of love and more about criticizing/condemning one another is in more deep relation than others without forgetting to do good deed to them and evoke the good deed about them. In opposite, the lovey-dovey friends also are in our requisite, because human mind tend to not always like to hear something reproachful though.
Hark back ourselves in selecting friends; a good friend will always recap us about our relation with Allah S.W.T as the narration above:
The Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) was reportedly asked: “Which of our companions are best?” He replied: “One whose appearance reminds you of God, and whose speech increases you in knowledge, and whose actions remind you of the hereafter.”
The Prophet ﷺ reminds us of the importance of good company in this hadith (record of the Prophet ﷺ): “A good friend and a bad friend are like a perfume-seller and a blacksmith: The perfume-seller might give you some perfume as a gift, or you might buy some from him, or at least you might smell its fragrance. As for the blacksmith, he might singe your clothes, and at the very least you will breathe in the fumes of the furnace.” [Bukhari, Muslim]
#Friends: Whom you love LillahiTa’ala J; the person who never gets tired of listening to your own pointless drama over and over again.